Advice Column (#3): Self-Confidence

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 “Mercy Media Advice Column: Self-confidence” 


I struggle a lot with being confident in myself. Do you have any tips on increasing self-confidence? -Seeking Self-confidence 


Dear Seeking Self-Confidence,

Self-confidence is something many people struggle with so you are certainly not alone. You may ask yourself what exactly is self-confidence? Well, self-confidence is defined as an attitude about your skills and abilities. It is accepting and trusting yourself in different areas of your life. Self-confidence allows you to stand up for yourself, overcome fear, and believe in yourself and your ability to succeed. It all starts with knowing yourself and your values.


Practice Positive Affirmations

Part of knowing yourself is recognizing your positive qualities and abilities. Write down positive qualities about yourself on a sticky note and place it on your bathroom mirror or in your bedroom. By repeating these affirmations to yourself, you are encouraging an optimistic mindset and reinforcing positive beliefs about yourself. Positive affirmations have been shown to help with tendencies to linger on negative thoughts and experiences. When listing your self-affirmations, make sure they reflect your personal values and what you believe in. 


Celebrate Small Victories 

You made your bed. You arrived at sports practice on time. You went on a run. These are all small wins worth celebrating! When you accomplish even a small task, it gives you the motivation to continue performing tasks. By recognizing the small wins, you build up confidence in yourself that you are capable of achieving even greater success. 


Let Go of the What If’s 

We can get so caught up in the what-if’s of life that at some point you have to realize that you cannot please everyone and some things are just not in your control. What if I don’t fit in? What if I wear the wrong thing? Learning to let go of the what-ifs is something that is developed over time. You have to learn to believe in yourself and your abilities, which is developing self-confidence. Once you learn to have confidence in yourself and your judgment, it is much easier to push away the what-if thoughts when they come up. 


Surround Yourself With Supportive People 

Supportive people are vital in a journey to self-confidence. Whether it is a group of friends, a parent, or a coach or teacher, it is important to have people to lean on. These people compliment you, push you, and encourage you to be confident in achieving your goals. These people remind you of your positive qualities and help you regain confidence when you are lacking it. 


Just remember, self-confidence is a skill developed over-time. Keep pushing to be the best version of yourself and have confidence in all of which you are capable of! 

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